Friday, April 26, 2013

House hunting and life in London

It's 9pm here in London and we are in a pretty great routine where Luke puts the kids to bed and I get to sit and unwind.  We've had a long but productive past 3 days.
As you may or may not know, Luke works for Skype.  Part of our relocation package included a relocation specialist who will drive us around London for 3 days worth of house hunting.  It's a real treat, especially since we don't have a car, and London is large and hard to take in on foot.
To prepare, we needed to find a babysitter for our house hunting days.  With no family or close friends in the area, I was a bit overwhelmed with the idea.  However, one element of the culture here, is that childminding is a profession.  Childminders have to be certified by the government, they have to take various courses, and they are overseen.  The profession gets the respect and oversight it deserves here, and that is comforting.  
Given that it is a profession, it was hard to find someone willing to do just a few days work.  Most people are looking for full-time or part-time work.  But after contacting 6 or 7 potential candidates, we found Helen.  She is wonderful and gentle and kind.  She also has a puppy named Jaunty and a hamster named Mousey.  So though we are in a foreign place surrounded by strangers, Helen and her animals have been a great treat for the kids- so much so that they are asking us to go on dates so they can see them again :)  Here are some photos that Helen took of the kids:







On Wednesday, the kids and I met with her to introduce ourselves.
On Thursday, she came by and we went house hunting with Claire, our relocation specialist.  
Claire is lovely!  She is very British and has the wit and presence of Mary Poppins!  I can't imagine a better help for our task :)



This is Claire
  Drivers in London are a lot more assertive than the states.  It is also completely normal to stop in the middle of a four lane road and turn around..so it's taken some getting used to being in the car with Claire, on the wrong side of the road, maneuvering in ways that would get you many, many fines in the US.  Fun though, and lots of beauty to see on our drives and great conversation.
Thursday we focused our house hunting in the area of South Woodford (North East London) and Hampstead (North London).  Here are a few images of the properties we viewed: 



One of the homes we liked in South Woodford





Same home, beautiful windows and pine floors.





Lovely streets signs, but hard to figure out what street you're on unless you happen to glance down at the right place, right time





Typical amount of garden space, though many homes don't have a garden  





Street in South Woodford





Luke whose expression perhaps suggests that I am taking too many pictures ;)





Set of flats on Hampstead Heath.  Very beautiful, but also very tiny :(





Luke crossed the street to check-out the heath





High street in Hampstead

We saw 16 properties on our first day, and seeing these properties happens very differently than in the US.
First, rental properties are all handled by agents (letting agents) similar to real estate agents for home sales in the States.  Also, there are no open houses, so you must contact an agent directly, make an appointment, and then you can view the property.  Claire did a terrific job and got us in to see much of the areas and the homes/flats we could afford.

I felt really overwhelmed last night, because there are so many different areas of London. As I thought of moving here, there was excitement to live near the city, but also a desire to be on a charming tree lined street in a Victorian home.  It's hard to find both, especially as homes are very pricey and we won't have a car.  This home/flat needs to be affordable and also be walking distance from shops, schools and hopefully the tube station.  The overwhelmed feeling arose because there are so many variables to consider that I didn't know how to approach the search.
Enter Luke--->
His job involves considering multiple variables, valuing each and ranking them in terms of priority.  Late last night, he walked me through all of the taxiing planes (our term for the multitude of thoughts I was trying to organize) and helped me to land them.  

It was so very helpful, and we came up with a really helpful tool for assessing potential homes.
Here it is (in priority order): 


1.       Great schools for the kids
2.       Have enough money to live in London (like eat out once in a while and be able to go do and see things)
3.       Functional environment
o   3 bedrooms/1 bathroom
o   Some family/living area
o   Can enjoy while we’re there (rainy months, etc)
o   Kitchen that doesn’t make us depressed (natural light, able to cook)
o   A neighbourhood our family can enjoy (British U in neighbourhood :))
4.       Daddy has enough time and energy to enjoy London with the family (commute time not energy draining)
5.       Can enjoy London within a 5 min bus/tube from our front door (not isolated from the city)
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6.       Have enough money to explore Europe
7.       Can explore London when we walk out our front door (we're not extremely isolated)
8.       Great kitchen (hospitality and cooking for the family)

The items above the line indicate things that we don't want to compromise, those below are icing on an already amazing cake.  This list really helped us out today as we ventured to another area of London to look for housing, Richmond (South West London).

Richmond is...breath-taking!  It is on the Thames, charming, family friendly, with great schools, accessible transit and a very concentrated and comprehensive high street area.  It is also a very sought-after area of London and thus, quite expensive.  Here is one picture of Richmond:

After exploring the area for a few hours, I was convinced of two things: 
1.  This is where I want to live
2. We will probably have to compromise even more to live here.  
The schools are great (though we may have to bus to schools further away) and to have enough money, we will probably need to live smaller and in a less charming flat.  It's been a good learning and unifying process, narrowing down what is really important to us and what we can do without.  We found two properties today that were stunning and out of our price-range and we found a very small flat on a very nice street near schools, the high street and station that would work.  When we viewed the property it was occupied, and I got a sense walking through it of new habits that we will need to adopt- drying laundry on racks in the hall-way, having bare minimum furniture with lots of hidden storage, buying small amounts of food each day (very small refrigerator).  No offensive or bad, just different from what we're used to.  On a side note, David Attenborough (British naturalist) would be our neighbor and we can (if we stretch our necks) see his front yard from our kitchen window.  He has a lovely yard, so maybe we can get to know each other and introduce 3 additional fauna to the mix :)  We haven't decided on it yet, but we're close.  I plan to work while we're here which will help with the budget, but we don't want to count chickens before they're hatched.
Here are some photos from our Richmond visit: 



Kitchen from one of the posh properties





Beautiful decorative detail...also at a very posh property





We had lunch here, at a lovely gathering space in Richmond Park





Another posh kitchen





Beautiful old pine floors





The property I absolutely adored was on this passage way called Albany passage.  Think narrow, lined with beautiful flowers





Typical size of a single bedroom





Kitchen of the place we're considering- hi David!





Dining area of the place we're considering.  It is a small  room separate from the rest of the house, about the size of a bedroom





Living room of the place we're considering



 I'm not sure where we'll end-up.  But I'm hoping that we will know soon.  Overall, still can't believe we are here and get to live here.  We don't know what the future holds, but we are, as I've said earlier, pushing forward and learning as we go :)








Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Plan no plan

I fully planned a terrific post for today detailing where we live, what our neighborhood and tube station look like, etc.-
(gigantic) camera in hand, we left our housing for the tube station...me snapping pictures like an overzealous tourist.
But then I realized half-way through our trip that I had no SD card in my camera...grrr!
So this will be a short post, but hopefully a bit funny!
The kids and I set off for the mall in London.  It's called Westfields and it is gigantic!
We spent our first week and a half navigating tube stations to as many parks as I could muster.  
But today, we endeavored to go to the mall.
I think of the mall as a safe place, perhaps in a different sense than you would think.
After having babies, I would spend a few days a week at the mall.  Not to shop, not to walk-off baby weight, but because it was the next easiest place to home- bathrooms, food, play areas, air-conditioned and most importantly a little distraction from the extreme exhaustion and cabin-fever that seemed to arrive about a month after birth.  
In addition, my very dear friend, Marin, had her children at similar times as me, so we could both meet there together and congratulate each other that we made it out of the house: dressed, at a respectable hour.  

This was not my experience today.  

For us, going out does not involve a vehicle, but a series of buses, tubes, or both.  I think it's about a 20 minute drive from where we are, but using the aforementioned forms of transport, it is about 45 minutes away.  No problem, we are walking-off excess energy and learning the ropes of transportation in London.  And I am definitely committed to public transit after years of living in my mini-van transporting children to and from school, activities, etc.  I am happy to be walking!
Anyway, Westfields is gigantic.  No problem, I have already mapped out the stores that we need to visit so I can be efficient.  What I didn't plan on was the new experience of taking non-infants to the mall.  I forgot that I completely stopped doing this about 2 years ago.  They are now walking and talking and seeing toy stores, candy stores and cookie shops- and they are now capable of running toward them.  Additionally, hiding in racks of clothing in gigantic and unfamiliar stores is fun, and escalators are the urban play area.  So my little happy-distraction mall time bubble was burst.  
But there are small victories in this.  A large part of my role in these first few weeks is teaching the kids to be wise city kids.  Without the protections of familiar places and the mini-van, we all need to be a lot more savvy, careful and aware.  We see and navigate new places everyday, and as I kid, this is understandably fun and exciting. It's exciting for me too!  But I am trying hard to learn myself how to navigate and be safe, and how to teach the kids to navigate and be safe as well.  
We're learning, and it is good and hard, as is with most learning.  Today I learned that the mall is a place for adults to visit- and that if I really need something, I should order it on Amazon.  The kids learned that stores and escalators are not play areas.  They are also learning the being bored is ok, kinda normal and not a reason to complain.

Below are some pictures of previous transit adventures...and a picture of Eva seizing the opportunity to climb at the gates of Buckingham Palace- why not?





Buckingham Palace



South Woodford station, we visited last night and are considering living here :)
More soon, as soon as I can remember my SD card ;)

Monday, April 22, 2013

Week -1: Before London, we visited North Carolina

On our way to London, we stopped in North Carolina for about a week to see Grandma and Grandpa, and my Aunt, Uncle and cousins.  It was terrific!
It was warm, and sunny, and beautiful. 
We did many distinctly American things, fun things, special things-
We all got to take a ride in Grandpa's new Corvette.  I don't know the model, but it is very fancy and very fast.  Grandpa can accelerate and do awesome maneuvers with his car!

This is Grandpa's Corvettle...it is blue and fast and beautiful
Eva 

Pearl sees a Corvette as an opportunity for some awesome poses...Grandpa is amused :)


Mac is ready to go fast!

I got to have some authentic NC BBQ with my cousin, Laura.  It was terrific, she is wonderful, and unfortunately, I have no pictures to prove this to you.  You'll have to take my word for it :)

We also did something else distinctly American... visiting South of the Border (South Carolina).  Have you been?  I am at a loss for how to describe this place...according to one web-site, it is "America's Favorite Highway Oasis."  Here is a link: http://www.thesouthoftheborder.com/

In Seattle (home town) it is illegal to light off fireworks, but in South Carolina, you can light them off (almost) anywhere, anytime.  And if you're in the market for fireworks, South of the Border is the place to be:
Notice that this package has the maximum Powder allowed by law...South Carolina doesn't mess around

We found a parking lot nearby to ignite our goods!


But we are from Seattle, and we didn't want and 3rd degree burns, so our "goods" involved smoke bombs and those weird worms ;)
We also had some great times with Grandma and Grandpa including a paving stone craft project: 





And a super fun meal at a Benihana type place:




We also got to see my Uncle, Aunt and Cousin- good times, always :)  We tried to take a group photo...and if you have chidren, you will understand how futile it is to get all members of the family (read: children) cooperating for said photo.  But I've included them anyway, because it is hilarious :)


Notice that Pearl has taken the opportunity to pose in this moment of chaos





We love our family, we love our extended family.  It was a sweet ending to our time in the US and we are grateful.